Max was born when I was 46.
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Max was born when I was 46. When he was 2, the doctors were all but certain that he was, as they euphemistically say, "on the spectrum" for autism -- meaning somewhere on the milder side of the group of disorders that fall under the autism umbrella. At 2, he didn't speak -- not even "Da-Da" or "Ma-Ma" or "Please step out of the way, I am trying to watch 'The Wiggles,' thank you" (which, if he could have talked, was probably the statement he would have started with). He wouldn't make eye contact and he spent hours lying on the floor, rolling a toy car back and forth in front of his face. Quite an agreeable activity, I must say, having tried it a few times, but put it all together and, our advisers told us, it probably spelled Asperger's disorder, the mildest form of autism. Friends tried to reassure us. "Einstein didn't talk until he was 3!" they offered, unaware that Einstein, along with Andy Warhol and Andy Kaufman and other late talkers, most likely had Asperger's.
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"On the spectrum" is not a euphemism; it is an accurate term. The greater the number of symptoms, the farther to the "disabled" side; the fewer the symptoms, the closer to the "eccentric" side.
With Asperger's, I have found my main concern to be my almost total blindness and deafness to body language, such as limb gestures, facial expressions, eye contact, and variations in vocal tone. This one symptom has made my school and work lives a tough adaption.
I eventually learned, through a process I would NOT recommend to anyone AT ALL because of the side effects: idealistically trying to help a friend with depression, which turned out to be either Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder. His facial expressions, tone, and body language were calculated to produce in me specific emotional responses, and they did.
The best I can suggest is watching Michael Jackson or Madonna dance videos. Their bodies sing where others merely speak, or at best, rap. (I know that's stretching the analogy.)
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